*Living Each Day One Day At A Time*

I know that I haven't updated this in forever. I've been updating my Facebook page more. If anyone has Facebook, search Sheri Hays and add me on there.

Anyways, just a quick update. Dan and I have been together for over a year now(October 30th, 2009). He surprised me with 2 dozen roses during the day. He kept saying that he was waiting on a package for his promotions company, but I knew something else was up. On the night of our anniversary, we went out to Dave & Buster's for dinner and fun. He wanted to take me to a nicer sit down place, but the wait at the place was an hour long, so we just decided against there. We had fun at Dave & Buster's reguardless. Came home and had a nice night relaxing on the couch together dispite him getting text messages on his phone and him answering them. I finally took his phone and told the person to stop texting him--that we were celebrating our anniversary and wanted a night of no interruptions.
On November 19th, 2009, I gave birth to our son--Jayden Louis Kirby. He was born at 9:58pm and came in at 7lbs 9oz 21in long. I was in labor for 13 hours. They ended up breaking my water for me because it wouldn't break on it's own. I also went all natural--no epidural! I was a trooper and pushed through it lol. I'm so happy that our son is finally here and our lives are complete now. That night was the happiest night of my life. Next happiest day/night--when Dan asks me to marry him(hee hee!). I know that won't be for a while. We have to get financially stable first. Plus, he's not ready to rush into getting married--neither am I. I don't want to go through another divorce like I did before. I love him and I hope that we'll be together forever--well, at least for a long time. We haven't been fighting anymore which is good. We're seeing a therapist to help us communicate better with one another and he's actually helping us out a lot. Plus, Jayden being here has strengthened us. Dan has taken on the role of being a dad really quick. I love being a mom. Getting used to not getting a lot of sleep at night and changing lots of diapers lol. I get sleep when Jayden naps during the day.
Other than that, not much else going on. Just getting ready for Christmas and my birthday. Can't believe at how fast this year went by. Seems like yesterday I was telling Dan that I was pregnant and then us finding out we were having a boy. This year has definently been a better year for me and I'm thankful for everyone in my life.

Here's some pictures of my baby boy:




More pictures to come. We just had Jayden's newborn pictures taken last Friday along with some family pictures. Waiting on those to come back. Once they do, I'll share some on here and have the rest on Facebook.

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I update that more than here. Plus, all my ultrasound pictures and everything are on there.

Thanks!

Can't believe on how fast my pregnancy has gone by. 7 more weeks and my little guy will be here. Wow! Never thought this day would get this close. I'm still nervous and the whole giving birth thing and actually raising him, but I know I'll get through it. I have the support of my boyfriend, family, and friends.
Went to the doctor today and she said everything looks good and I'm right on track. Jayden is definently getting bigger and from what she could feel, he's in the correct position, but he could flip around. I go back in 2 weeks and she's gonna have me set up my last ultrasound so we can get a better feel on how he's positioned. She's also gonna have me get the H1N1 vaccination. Not looking forward to that. Got the flu shot 2 weeks ago and that wasn't a fun time for me. Felt like crap for 2 days straight. It sucked. Not sure what the symptoms will be with the bext shot. Don't even want to think about it.
Anyways, Dan asked me recently if I trusted him. I came out and said no because I've been burned in the past and I don't want to go through that again. Plus, he's been distant from me and talking to other girls in a way that I don't appreciate. He doesn't talk to me like he does them and it sickens me. And, tonight, he asked me again because of the fact he's going out to hang with some of his friends. He thinks it scares me when he goes out without me. Well, yeah, it does. I had to call my mom last Tuesday to come get me so we could go pick up his drunk ass from the bar he was at. Things like that need to end and he knows it. Luckily tonight I've decided to go with him. He freaked out when I said I wanted to go, but he needs to get over it. I don't want to sit at home and get another call like last week. I'm preventing that tonight.

More soon! Bye!

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 My little baby boy Jayden at 28 weeks

Big Yawn!

Crib all set up with bedding and everything

Cute bedding! All of it was handmade and never used. The people that had it before were in the process of adopting a baby boy and it didn't work out :-(

My best friend Stephanie and I at her engagement party--7/18/09. I'm now 22 weeks pregnant and just starting to glow.

Dan and Me on his birthday, June 26, 2009 in the top of the Gateway Arch

Dan and Me underneath one of the Arches for the 2009 All-Star Game, June 26, 2009

Us at the baseball game, June 26, 2009

July 6, 2009--20 weeks and 2 days

Baby's head

I'm having a boy!

He's waving "HI!" to everyone.

April 26th--9 weeks and 1 day

June 4th--14 weeks and 5 days

On Tuesday, I got to hear my baby's heartbeat. It was nice and fast. I later on that day learned that a baby's heartbeat can beat anywhere between 120 and 140 beats per minute. I didn't know that. Also, while the doctor was trying to find the baby's heartbeat, baby kept moving. It was so cute. My mom made the comment that maybe there are 2 in me. LOL! I'm hoping not, but if there is, then I'm hoping it's a boy and girl. I'll find out on June 22nd when I go for my first ultrasound. I'm so excited. I can't wait to know the sex of the baby. Plus, I'm gonna get Dan to come with me before he goes to work, so that way he can one up my mom. She heard the heartbeat before him, so now, he can know the sex before she does. LOL! It's funny that they are in competition, but they both like each other very much which is a good thing seeing as my mom's side of the family is still warming up to him. A few more family events and we'll be golden.
My mom told me today that her friend Betsy asked her last night if Dan gave me a ring yet. I laughed about that because my divorce with Emmitt isn't final until June 8th and plus Dan and I have talked about that. He's not going to propose to me yet. We're waiting a year. And, we already have plans to go to the Bahamas and get married. Just a small intimate ceremony. Maybe just have our parents there. We don't know yet. That's not for another year or so. No need to be thinking about that now. Just need to think about the baby.
I start my new job on next Thursday. I'm thinking I'm going to be working Thurday, Friday, and Saturday for the time being. The manager said I'll get more hours once they start picking up on business. It'll pick up soon since schools have let out and more people will be coming into the resturant. I'm looking forward to going back to work. Yeah, it's not what I really wanted, but it's a job, so I can't complain.

More soon! Bye!

Everything is going right for once in my life. Not that they weren't going right before, but now, everything is even more perfect than before. I got a new job. I now am employed at Qdoba Mexican Grill. Going to be working there 3 nights a week. It'll be 4 once schools are let out for the summer. Sales will pick up. I start there on Wednesday. I got a new OBGYN. She is a lot closer to where I live than my original one. I go to see her June 10th. By then, I'll be able to know if I'm having a boy or girl. I still going to my original OBGYN this Tuesday. I'm going out of town this weekend with Dan. We're going down to his parents house at the lake and going to spend time with them. Going to spend the day tomorrow out on their boat. Should make for a great weekend. Sucks that I'm the designated driver if anyone gets too drunk to drive, but in reality, I don't mind. I've come to the realizaton that I don't need alcohol to have a good time. I think I'm giving it up for good. I say this now and watch, when I have my baby, I'll have at least one drink. I know I'm going to have sushi as soon as the baby pops out. LOL! Then, I'm getting my 2nd tattoo. I've decided against the shooting stars on my foot. I'm going to get my baby's footprint on my right shoulder along with his or her name and their date of birth. I think it would be cute. Dan is going to get the baby's footprint on his chest as well, but not going to get their name or date of birth. I took his idea and I'm making it better. LOL!
I have a few things to get done before he gets home today. Got the dishwasher going already. I need to take a shower or bubble bath. Not sure which one I wanna do yet. Finish packing my things. I packed my clothes and such last night. Still have to get my hair stuff into my bag and put my laptop into it's bag.
Almost forgot one thing. My divorce is going to be final on June 8th. About damn time. I've waited long enough. We're still going to try the whole being friends thing, but Dan doesn't think it'll be a good idea. He doesn't really like my ex-husband too much. He respects him, but just doesn't like him. I can see where he's coming from. Maybe it wouldn't be good to be friends with an ex. Who knows. Have to see how everything goes.

That's about it.....I think. More soon!

I got surprised with this last night when Dan came home from the St. Louis Cardinals Baseball game. He wanted to make up for only getting one ticket from a drawing at work. He said that it's an early Mother's Day present. He's so sweet and loving.

They have these at the Build-A-Bear at our Baseball Stadium. I have the mascot--Fredbird already, so he got me the Clydesdales. My mom said it was a Momma and her baby. I agree with her. They're cute!

More soon! Bye!

Ever since yesterday, things have gotten so much better for me. I finally got onto state medical insurance, so I can finally go see a doctor and make sure things are going well with my pregnancy. I made an appointment today with the OB I used to go to. They accept the insurance I have. I go see her on the 26th. Went to lunch with my mom today at Qdoba. While we were there, I filled out an application and I have an interview with the manager tomorrow. How sweet is that?!? I might have a job by next week. I told Dan about the interview and he kind of complained because it's not a desk job and it doesn't pay much, but at least it'll be a job and I'll have money coming in for us. Geez, wish he would be happy about it.
Anyways, I noticed today that my belly button is changing shapes and it's becoming an outie. Yeah, I know. It's a little weird. I'm gonna have to take out my belly ring soon. I'm gonna feel a little weird without it in because I've had it for so long. Good thing is it won't close up, so once the pregnancy is done, I can put it back in. Yay. LOL!

That's about it for now. More soon. Bye!

Well, fighting with DFS has actually paid off. I got on state insurance after getting all the needed papers to them. Thank god! I'm gonna get into a doctor here soon. Just have to send in paperwork to get my insurance card now and see all my benefits coming to me.

This is a short entry for now. I'll post more soon.

Here's some pictures for your enjoyment:

Dan and Me

Stomach as of today

Well, I went to DFS yesterday to apply for MC+ for pregnant women and they said that I have to go to Planned Parenthood and have the pregnancy test done that the one from Birthright isn't valid since those are volunteers there and not dr's or nurses. That is a bunch of crap. Then, they also have to send paperwork to my last job so that my ex-manager there can state that I don't work there anymore and that I'm not going back to there. Another thing, they have to have a statement from Mike about how much of my bills he helps me with and when he helps me with them. I didn't think this process was gonna be so difficult. I just wanted to pull my hair out.

They also signed me up to get onto food stamps which I don't mind that because I can help my parents out with those, but same thing goes with that as for the insurance. They need all the above things I named plus they have to figure out my ex-husband's monthly income. That is some bullshit. I told my case worker that I have nothing to do with him and I don't want him involved in any of this. She said that no matter what he pretty much follows me anywhere. I'm sitting there thinking to myself great he's gonna find out that I'm pregnant and wonder if he's the father or not. I know he's not and he can't claim he is either. If he tries, then I'm gonna fight him and maybe go through with a DNA test once the baby is born. I'm not sure I want my child going through that because I'm 100% sure the baby is Mike's. If by some strange miracle the baby isn't Mike's, then I'm gonna be worried because I haven't been with anyone else.

On a happier note, I think I might be getting my unemployment pay this time around. My case worker printed out my unemployment filing claim paperwork yesterday and I caught a glimpse of it. From the looks of it, I'm gonna be getting a little over $100 a week in unemployment. That's better than nothing if I do get it. I just have to wait and see what happens. I'm keeping my fingers crossed because I do need to get my bank account back up to current and keep up with paying for my car. I still owe $4,105.06 on my car. That includes all the late charges and the payment from last month that I have not made yet. Not much longer and I can sell that car to get a newer one. I'm looking into getting a Honda Accord. They are cute cars. They have plenty of room and 4 doors will be good when the baby comes.

I haven't had morning sickness/night sickness since Wednesday night. Hopefully it stays like this. I hate being sick, but I know that's natural during pregnancy. I've been eating a lot of cheese. I think my baby likes cheese. It's strange, but true. I can't wait to get on this insurance so I can get into a dr and get an ultrasound and everything else. I'm excited! Even though I'm only 22, I'm looking forward to having this baby. I was a little scared when I first found out that I was pregnant, but I got over that shock and said to myself that this baby will help me start my new life and help me to have a clear head about things.

More soon! Bye!

Well, went and filed my divorce papers yesterday. Playing the waiting game now. Hopefully will have a court hearing soon. Already have one because of the restraining order and him not being the one that got served the summons for that--his girlfriend got served it. Stupid sheriff. That's rescheduled for the end of this month if he decides to show up. I feel that I need one now because of what I'm going through. I don't want him coming after me or my baby or Mike. I just want nothing to do with my ex-husband. He treated me badly and I feel that I don't owe him anything. He owes me back the last almost 3 years of my life, but that won't ever happen. That was my mistake in the first place. Getting married young is sometimes never a good idea and I learned that the hard way.

Anyways, on a happier note, I went to Birthright today and had an official test done and they gave me a tentative due date--11/28/09. Yay! After Thanksgiving. I was thinking it was actually going to be around Christmas or my birthday, but I was off a little. They go by the date of your last period and such. It's weird, but now, I have proof that I really am pregnant. As if 4 home pregnancy tests were not enough lol. I have to go to DFS tomorrow to get onto Medicaid for pregnant women. Wasn't gonna go today because it is the 1st of the month and there would be up to a 4 hour wait. Yeah, not doing that one. Hopefully they won't be busy tomorrow. Just have to get there right when they open at 8am. Fun!

More soon! I'm getting better at updating this. I guess it's because I don't have a job and I have nothing better to do lol jk.

Well, my divorce isn't happening tomorrow. It's not being moved until Tuesday. That bastard. My soon to be ex-husband is putting it off so it can be convenient  with his schedule. He talked about me for so long putting it off and now he's doing the same damn thing. I will be soooo happy when I don't have to deal with his stupid ass anymore and he can have his new little girlfriend whom has him wrapped around her little finger and stuck up her ass. It's retarded and I'm glad I'm out of his life soon. He still wants to try to be friends, but after tomorrow, I can't be around him. Tuesday is an exception. I have the restraining order hearing tomorrow and if he doesn't show up(which 99% of me thinks he won't), then I'm gonna be rewarded the restraining order regardless and he can't do anything about it.

Onto happier news, I found out last Wednesday I'm pregnant. I took 3 tests to confirm it and I'm going on Wednesday to Birthright to have another one done so I can go get on Medicaid for pregnant women and get Wick. I'm so excited about this pregnancy because for the past 3 years, I've had problems with getting pregnant. I think my ex-husband was shooting blanks. Sorry to say that, but I think that's the truth. Plus, I had the HPV thing and that scared me as well. I know it's Mike's baby because he's the only other guy I've been with and I haven't been with my ex sexually since August. Also, I haven't had a period since January, so I knew something else had to be wrong with me along with having the flu and when I started having morning sickness, I knew I had to take a test. I took it when I was at Mike's house so he would know it was true. We both had a feeling I was, but I wanted proof for myself. I told both of my parents already. They are happy and both are willing to help us out through this pregnancy. They can't believe their baby is having a baby. It's a miracle.

More soon! Bye!

Well, our divorce is getting uglier each day. He just recently got served with the restraining order I filled against him. He got super pissed about it, but at the same time, I fear for my safety after we are fully divorced. I don't want him coming after me and I don't want his girlfriend coming after me either. Both of them have anger issues and they need help with it. He also claimed that since he has a restraining order against him, he lost his job at the airport. I think that's bullshit, but who knows. If it's true, then it won't be long until the military finds out as well. Oh well. This is what he gets for threatening me. He expects us to be friends--yeah right. He's also said things against the guy I am seeing and it pissed me off so much. I can't be around him at all if he's doing that shit. Other than that, we are going April 6 to finalize all the paperwork and get this all over with. I can not wait. I'm going to be jumping for joy as soon as he signs the papers because I'll be free from him and he'll be free from me. I'll be able to have a normal life and not one of a military wife anymore. Granted, I did like it in the beginning, but now, it's something I can't handle anymore.
Anyways, other than that, I've just been getting over having the stupid flu for the 3rd time. This sucks and I've missed work. I wouldn't be surprised if I didn't have my job anymore. I'm not too worried about it because I have applied other places for a better job. I'm waiting to here from those places. I know it takes a few days, but I'm willing to wait.
Things with Mike are going well. He's been at my parents house taking care of me while I've been sick. I love him so much. My family likes him too. Well, my immediate family does. Just wait until the grandmother meets him. Uh oh. That might not go over too well, but we'll see. I'm planning on bringing him to my cousin Courtney's wedding next month to meet the whole family. I'm crossing my fingers that everything will go well.

That's about it for now. More soon! Bye!

As always, I'm not good with updating this thing anymore. Been busy getting back into the swing of working. I got a job working back at Jimmy John's, but this time, I'm at a different location and I got the hours I wanted. I'm still doing the same thing I did at the other location--inshop crew member and back up driver. I make tips for being a driver, but don't get many deliveries on the days that I do do back up. I'm not complaining too much about it. Just kind of use that money for gas in my car and such.
Anyways, Emmitt and I are getting divorced. Yes, you heard right--divorced. He and I just aren't meant for each other anymore and we're better off friends. Well, right now, that friends thing isn't working out too well. He's already moved onto another chick and I at least have respect for myself to not jump into anything and to wait until I'm ready to date again. Plus, we're not officially divorced yet. Just working on the paperwork to get divorced. Another reason this is happening is because he's a liar, has anger issues, and other things. He never wanted to seek help for his problems. He claimed he didn't have any problems, but he was just denying it. Also, we haven't been the same since he's gotten back from Iraq anyways. So, since February 21st(Mardi Gras Parade Day here in St. Louis), I've been back at my parents house. It sucks, but I mean, I just couldn't be with him anymore. He mentally and physically abused me. There would be mornings I would wake up with bruises all over me and I wouldn't know how I got them. He also threatened to choak me and to throw me out the window of our apartment. That's when I knew he has problems and I had to act fast. I guess what they say about high school sweethearts isn't true--they really don't last forever. It's been 8 years total we've been together--almost 3 of which we were married. Oh well. Like I said, I'm not looking to jump into another relationship anytime soon. I need to get my priorities straight and get my bills paid off before anything.
On a sadder note, my great-great grandfather has been dead 15 years today. For the past 14 years, none of us has gone to the cemetary. I'm gonna go when I wake up later. I feel the need to pay my respects to him after all these years. Plus, he and I were really close. I was close with my great-great grandmother as well. She'll be dead 10 years this coming September. I miss them both very much. They used to live almost directly across the street from my parents house. I would help my mom take care of them both when they both started getting sick. It's sad when you lose a loved one and then when the anniversary of their death comes around, you remember all the times you had with them and then you cry over it. Yeah, that's exactly what I'm doing right now----crying. It sucks, but I know life goes on and just to live each day one day at a time.

Would​ you reliv​e 2008 over and over again​?​
Nope


What did you purch​ase that was over $​1000?​
Nothing


Did you know anybo​dy who got marri​ed?​
Not that I remember


Did you know anybo​dy who passe​d away?​
Nope


Did you know anyon​e who had a baby?​
Not that I remember


Did you move anywh​ere?​
Nope


What conce​rts/​ shows​ did you go to?
3 Doors Down, Brad Paisley


Are you regis​tered​ to vote?​
Yes I am since I was 18


Do you still​ have the same job as you did in 2007?​
Nope


Has anyon​e betra​yed you in 2008?​
Not that I know of


Where​ do you live now?
Still in good ole St. Louis, MO


Descr​ibe your last birth​day?​
Wow, that was my 21st, so I was drunk and hugging a toilet when I got home from partying


What's​ one thing​ you thoug​ht you'd never​ do but did in 2008?​
I don't think there was anything


What's​ somet​hing you learn​ed about​ yours​elf?​
That I need to be more focused on my marriage than just on myself


Any new addit​ions to your famil​y?​
Nope


What was your best month​?​
March--when hubby came home from Iraq


Were you in a relat​ionsh​ip this year?​
Of course :-)


What music​ will you remem​ber 2008 by?
Pretty much everything


Who has been your best drink​ing buddy​/​ buddi​es?​
Anyone that was willing to go out drinking with me LOL!


New frien​d(​s)​?​
Yes


Favor​ite Night​ out?
Going to the new premier night club here in STL


Would​ you say you'​ve chang​ed since​ the begin​ning of this year?​
Yes


Do you think​ 2009 will be bette​r or worse​?​
Better